Balance in the emission of feelings

 The interest in different kinds of love is complex for our curious society. Freedom, Love and Happiness are treated differently in poetry, psychology and in practice. The love of society?

Love is a complex confluence of many different emotions, not only one emotion in relationships with different things or people. The love you feel in a relationship is different among people and other things. The program for different individuals and things can be: the relationship, children, parents, good friends, gods, political ideologies and animals. It can also be hatred, sex, food …. (Temporary desires). There are many different forms and many areas of the brain are linked to emission, cognition;

But there is also thought activity, plus a subconscious power that is based on what the individual has for norms, prejudices, culture and to which generation you belong - Love is different!

 

Extremes should be a great science to research for better understanding.

Do we really understand what others understand, how much do we fake?

RESPONSIBILITY

We are talking about control areas. You can have the inner control area, which means you feel like you are managing your own life. Or you can have the external control area if you feel that your life is usually controlled by external forces.

In the West, and probably especially in northern Europe, we have mainly the internal control area. We believe that our own choices, and our way of dealing with emotions and situations, are crucial to how we achieve happiness and success or suffer and problem.

The internal control area makes us masters of our own lives and it is a really good basis for an exciting internal and external development.

In the Muslim world, there is generally a very strong area of ​​external control. Here everything is inshallah (if Allah wills) and directed to male authorities.

The lack of freedom and the inability to take control of one's own life leads to personal immaturity and cultural stagnation - and to the world-famous and deeply embarrassing victim mentality: It is always someone else's fault.

The area of ​​control (Locos of Control) is one of the big differences in ideologies; The right believes that the individual has responsibility and the left believes that the individual has no responsibility?

NOTE! This is expressed in general terms. How much we understand we have a hard time understanding!?   We have to research further!

        TOLERANCE ??????????  !!!!!!!!!!!!!!  ……………

Especially in Western Europe and the USA, being open and tolerant is seen as a positive quality in humans. It gives us the opportunity to exchange views and have an open mind to learn new things. It also allows us to live in harmony with each other, despite political or religious differences.

In Islam, openness and tolerance are a sin.? Here one must keep a distance from non-believers and everything they stand for must be fought.?

There are many examples of Muslim girls and women who have been killed while embracing Western culture and may even have had a boyfriend from another religion. People in different directions of Islam are at war with each other, down to the last comma in the Qur'an.

It is not difficult to imagine what happens when an open and tolerant culture is to exist in the same country as a closed and intolerant culture: the open and tolerant give up and the closed and intolerant will gradually spread. Eventually, it will all be about, and relating to, Islam in one way or another.?!

 

Self-Feeling

In the western world, and perhaps especially in Denmark, we see it as a sign of good self-esteem to have the ability to handle criticism without being upset. If the critic is right, we say thank you for the help. If it's wrong, we can continue to be friends anyway. This gives us good opportunities to learn from each other and thereby develop ourselves and our society.

Our long tradition of religious criticism is an example of how we have been free to develop democracy and make scientific progress.

Here the opposite is true in Islam. Islam's conception of honor develops fragile and sensitive personalities who cannot withstand the slightest criticism or defeat.

This is reflected in poorer results in education and an often overblown attitude from young men which aims to scare the environment from seeing them as the insecure people they really are. According to general psychology, what they call "honest" is most of all about low self-esteem.

 

THE ART OF HELP?

You can´t help people if you do not want to meet them where they are.

We must recognize that Muslims are different from us; that they think, perceive and communicate differently than we do.

As Søren Kierkegaard put it in his text the art of help: "That, when it is important to take a person to a certain place, one must first and foremost make sure to find him where he is, and start there. That is the secret of all auxiliary art. He who does not know this, imagines only when he thinks he can help another.   To really be able to help someone else, I need to know more than him, but first and foremost, I need to understand what he understands. If I do not do that, my compassion will not help him at all”.

Freedom Love Happiness and Society in the word-processor

 

The clouds have no final doomsday, everything is freedom for them. Floating, they are reached by looseness and do not find their fixed point.

In heaven, they draw their message, which is faded by the rotation of the earth.

Everything seems like a funny game.

 

The show of love has no words, whispers like the wind in the trees, floats easily over flowering earth, plays in the summer greenery.

No one hears it more than we, you and I, side by side. For it is to us that it sings its song over the earth far and wide.

 

As true as we have a country of birth, we all inherited it similarly, with the same right and with the same bond for both the poor and the rich. Therefore, we want to vote freely and live safely among shields, but not weighed by merchants as gold on scales.

We struggled together for home and heart, when times of unrest lasted. Not only pride boils down but also the servant of pride. It's a shame, it stains Society's banner, that citizenship is called money.

It is a shame to sit as we have done, to throw stones at our own gate and speak ill of ourselves.

We are tired of bleeding for our own misfortune, of separating heart from head; we want to become a common people, as true as this is drawn.

 

 

When happiness met Love on a midsummer day, Love said to Happiness: My sister, I know you are more beautiful and stronger than I am - so help our little brother who is so gloomy. But Happiness just treasured and we were amazed to see how little she understood of the longing and idea and everything that goes alone and cries.

 

 

How to find happiness then? - I was sweating and tearing with this simple question far more than anyone knows.

I stopped a friend, a worker and an official and a gentleman who looked like a base for some sect.

I brought my question to everyone communities around… And everyone had a hard time fixing anything.

I wondered: - In love? In honor? - Or gold? Until the intellectual said: About walking without guilt.

- Is there anyone who has walked without guilt on our earth, then she walked without socks and shoes.

And I answered - for the face greeted me and the snail that stuck her foot?

                                     societal change

 

SECURITY AND RESPONSIBILITY

 

It's about SECURITY, my own, my family's and society's common safekeeping. We are all society, and who should be able to feel safe in daily life, in the family, in cultural contexts, at work and in leisure time - yes, at any time.

Society is overrepresented by caring-taken women. And for a more equivalent society, there should be a balance, because it is the strength of mind and heart that applies in today's society. It helps little to put money into the bottom socio-economic jumble; education and social education are needed.

If the caring society, including the home, is an invisible meritocracy, then patriarchy is visible and controls the rest all the more! We have come a long way with balancing in Sweden. And we should be aware of that when migrants think we are naive, gullible and gullible "servants". Maybe it would be an idea to impartially examine how much that statement is true (matriarchy is no better than patriarchy)?

Insobriety in life.

 

Happiness comes from your own actions (it is a consequents of what do and how we behave) !

The symptom of “intoxication” can help you get to know the balance of people you meet; it can be Love, Food, Project and Drug intoxication.

Then the consequences of the "intoxication" become a habit that develops negatively. Then, if not sooner, it's time to analyze! Love can turn into a need for control, Uncontrolled eating can turn into obese disease, Projects can turn into violations of power, greed and jealousy. Alcohol is perhaps the one we can learn most from everything it has caused.

Example alcohol intoxication:

     The levels of intoxication can be

1) the thought and longing for happiness and soft feeling.

2) first glass = calm; 0.2 permille, feels the alcohol - becomes relaxed and less self-critical.

3) second to third glass = happiness intoxication phase (target, affected); 0.5 permille, releases inhibitions and reflexes. The judgment and ability to take information deteriorates. Precision deteriorates.

4) fourth glass = drunk (still happy, but the creativity in imbalance, visibly affected); 0.8 permille, the movements become excessive and the coordination worse. Sight is affected.

5) fifth glass = full drunk (gives consequences); At 1 to 2 permille, muscle control deteriorates and speech becomes slurred. At 1, the limit is passed for heavy drunk driving. Emotions are hard to control. Major balance difficulties. Sickness and emotional outbursts.

6) Groggy drunk (completely uncontrolled actions); 2 permille sees the affected double, has difficulty talking and walking upright.

7) Redless drunk (covered!); at 3 permille, the limit goes to unconsciousness and does not perceive what is happening and the risk of alcohol poisoning is great.

- Dependence comes gradually. Co-dependence can also be a kind of intoxication or self-indulgence.     But what about when you started to feel uncomfortable and unhappy with intoxication? It's not just to stop drinking or to be okay? -to stop seeing women as sex objects, -to stop smoking, -to flee one's place of residence, -to stop getting involved in everything and everyone, -to stop eating sweets, etc. - Or is it perhaps so ! ?

 

…… sentences and words, taken out of context, - and to put into different contexts .......? - the notes continue in the comments in Swedish .......

 

Communication, with help of words, is an art.

 

                        Month of July 2021

                                             Go for a walk

In order to achieve a meaningful conversation, an effort and empathy in the dialogue is needed. If there is an imbalance between the sentences, listening is a first step. Developing the words requires a conscious and mutual respect, no matter how hard the opposition is. Most of us humans communicate fundamentally beyond words and their literal meaning. Thinking into the other person's perspective requires a great presence. Feeling heard requires a great deal of openness.

Providing space to discuss complex and sensitive issues delivers feeling of security.

Creating presence and focusing gives attention. And asking questions, taking up ideas and rethinking questions, opens up for understanding.

[Trying out, by going from word to action, requires even more presence. Through consistency analysis, controller points and different gender perspectives, the "natural" development is allowed to flow.]

To separately identify (without dialogue) what one thinks and feels and then move on, creates openness. Here you can form new perspectives through understanding and continued questions about the goal.

And the "exchange of words" continues ………

 

 

value realism

 

The open society are unpatriarchy.

What characterizes the culture in Sweden is an approach that leads to what can be called "moral realism". This means that some values ​​are good and others are bad in themselves objectively. But it is preferable to relativism, where people are grouped into a hierarchy of oppressed and oppressors.

Some value systems are better than others for the well-being of a society.

 

Sweden's population appears to be secular, rational and self-fulfilling.

The Swede wants to be tolerant and inclusive when it comes to other cultures (self-realization), which means an extreme opposition to the secular and rational values. A common value system is necessary for a society's long-term prosperity and cohesion.

It can be said that the values ​​of liberal democracy, which include the principle of equal rights regardless of gender, skin color, sexual orientation, freedom of thought and expression, etc., are the best "recipe for values", which when implemented in a society leads to a maximizing well-being.

 

Vison;

Male guardianship of the women in the family is not on the map! Chastity culture and the ideal of innocence are history in the value system and are not tolerated! Here are just the same rights and obligations for all individuals in society, all with the same legal standard regardless of culture, religious or ethnic background; we have buried all identity politics and completely freed ourselves from collectivist group thinking based on identity. The focus is on individual and individual rights, not the rights of groups. Freedom of religion has been incorporated into the provisions on freedom of opinion and expression.

 

The elimination of patriarchy can allow men to be a little bit like women too!     (The COVID19 pandemic is demonstrating what we all know: millennia of patriarchy have resulted in a male-dominated world with a male-dominated culture which damages everyone –)

 

Changing the moral values ​​of individuals, which are important both for the well-being of society and for its cohesion and survival, is the goal.

- "We have our way and the Swedes have theirs"? A divided society divided into us and them is a society with low trust and little willingness to cooperate and becomes even more problematic in a welfare society where people are expected to contribute to the benefit of other members of society.

It is important to have a vision and a goal to gradually move people's attitudes and values ​​towards the Swedish attitude with secular, rational values ​​and towards self-realization.

Ethnic backgrounds do not need to be addressed, but the differences in culture, values ​​and ideas, which can be linked to and from, we can address!

- The open society is based on the equality and freedom of individuals but at the same time maintains a set of values ​​that are considered to be right and that constitute society's moral foundation. People in the open society are involved in dialogue with those who adopt opposing values ​​and try to criticize or change their positions or perhaps sometimes change their own positions.

Yet open society is not a morally relativistic or morally neutral society. Here, everyone is encouraged to adopt a set of fundamental values that some would call humanist or liberal democratic values.

What is your role?

 

The Learning Society.

Curiosity, creativity, economy, development, diversity, openness are concepts for people who consciously and subconsciously educate themselves. It can feel good for the moment to be taken care of and completely directed, but in most cases it is something that is missing for the whole, and the individual seeks knowledge for their thoughts, we are human.

The welfare society for the future.

Decentralization usually comes after a centralization that has become superfluous. We need smaller unit solutions with unchanged tax collection; then we also need more co-creation and learning (societal insight).

Creativity and Supervisor and control functions!

Control yourself, so you do not have to be controlled by others! Are you unconsciously creative, insane (extremes of balanced curiosity) or just lazy, seek the help of a Supervisor or controller?

A limited borderless open Sweden  ?

The ability to integrate is determined by the individuals' functional adaptation in both labor immigration and asylum immigration. Unregulated immigration is an impossibility in a welfare state?! A citizenship with clear rules!?

The green society !

In a hopeful environmental policy, one must formulate nature's agenda with great openness, competition and efficiency! It is not possible to recreate "then" with vulgar artegoistic marketing tricks. The conditional optimism with realistic solutions, which scientifically point to the problems, can mobilize everyone in a free, responsible and humanistic society!

Our membership of the World Union ?

The self-image of Sweden needs to be updated and value cooperation strengthened. Rethinking foreign policy unsentimentally in EU cooperation is becoming more important. The countries in Southern Europe constitute the protection against unsustainable immigration and there Sweden must contribute with competence as well, we are already contributing financially!