Balance in the emission of feelings

 The interest in different kinds of love is complex for our curious society. Freedom, Love and Happiness are treated differently in poetry, psychology and in practice. The love of society?

Love is a complex confluence of many different emotions, not only one emotion in relationships with different things or people. The love you feel in a relationship is different among people and other things. The program for different individuals and things can be: the relationship, children, parents, good friends, gods, political ideologies and animals. It can also be hatred, sex, food …. (Temporary desires). There are many different forms and many areas of the brain are linked to emission, cognition;

But there is also thought activity, plus a subconscious power that is based on what the individual has for norms, prejudices, culture and to which generation you belong - Love is different!

 

Extremes should be a great science to research for better understanding.

Do we really understand what others understand, how much do we fake?

RESPONSIBILITY

We are talking about control areas. You can have the inner control area, which means you feel like you are managing your own life. Or you can have the external control area if you feel that your life is usually controlled by external forces.

In the West, and probably especially in northern Europe, we have mainly the internal control area. We believe that our own choices, and our way of dealing with emotions and situations, are crucial to how we achieve happiness and success or suffer and problem.

The internal control area makes us masters of our own lives and it is a really good basis for an exciting internal and external development.

In the Muslim world, there is generally a very strong area of ​​external control. Here everything is inshallah (if Allah wills) and directed to male authorities.

The lack of freedom and the inability to take control of one's own life leads to personal immaturity and cultural stagnation - and to the world-famous and deeply embarrassing victim mentality: It is always someone else's fault.

The area of ​​control (Locos of Control) is one of the big differences in ideologies; The right believes that the individual has responsibility and the left believes that the individual has no responsibility?

NOTE! This is expressed in general terms. How much we understand we have a hard time understanding!?   We have to research further!

        TOLERANCE ??????????  !!!!!!!!!!!!!!  ……………

Especially in Western Europe and the USA, being open and tolerant is seen as a positive quality in humans. It gives us the opportunity to exchange views and have an open mind to learn new things. It also allows us to live in harmony with each other, despite political or religious differences.

In Islam, openness and tolerance are a sin.? Here one must keep a distance from non-believers and everything they stand for must be fought.?

There are many examples of Muslim girls and women who have been killed while embracing Western culture and may even have had a boyfriend from another religion. People in different directions of Islam are at war with each other, down to the last comma in the Qur'an.

It is not difficult to imagine what happens when an open and tolerant culture is to exist in the same country as a closed and intolerant culture: the open and tolerant give up and the closed and intolerant will gradually spread. Eventually, it will all be about, and relating to, Islam in one way or another.?!

 

Self-Feeling

In the western world, and perhaps especially in Denmark, we see it as a sign of good self-esteem to have the ability to handle criticism without being upset. If the critic is right, we say thank you for the help. If it's wrong, we can continue to be friends anyway. This gives us good opportunities to learn from each other and thereby develop ourselves and our society.

Our long tradition of religious criticism is an example of how we have been free to develop democracy and make scientific progress.

Here the opposite is true in Islam. Islam's conception of honor develops fragile and sensitive personalities who cannot withstand the slightest criticism or defeat.

This is reflected in poorer results in education and an often overblown attitude from young men which aims to scare the environment from seeing them as the insecure people they really are. According to general psychology, what they call "honest" is most of all about low self-esteem.

 

THE ART OF HELP?

You can´t help people if you do not want to meet them where they are.

We must recognize that Muslims are different from us; that they think, perceive and communicate differently than we do.

As Søren Kierkegaard put it in his text the art of help: "That, when it is important to take a person to a certain place, one must first and foremost make sure to find him where he is, and start there. That is the secret of all auxiliary art. He who does not know this, imagines only when he thinks he can help another.   To really be able to help someone else, I need to know more than him, but first and foremost, I need to understand what he understands. If I do not do that, my compassion will not help him at all”.