The interest in different kinds of love is complex for our curious society. Freedom, Love and Happiness are treated differently in poetry, psychology and in practice. The love of society?
Love is a complex confluence of many different
emotions, not only one emotion in relationships with different things or
people. The love you feel in a relationship is different among people and other
things. The program for different individuals and things can be: the
relationship, children, parents, good friends, gods, political ideologies and
animals. It can also be hatred, sex, food …. (Temporary desires). There are
many different forms and many areas of the brain are linked to emission,
cognition;
But
there is also thought activity, plus a subconscious power that is based on what
the individual has for norms, prejudices, culture and to which generation you
belong - Love is different!
Extremes should be a
great science to research for better understanding.
Do we really
understand what others understand, how much do we fake?
RESPONSIBILITY
We
are talking about control areas. You can have the inner control area, which
means you feel like you are managing your own life. Or you can have the
external control area if you feel that your life is usually controlled by
external forces.
In
the West, and probably especially in northern Europe, we have mainly the
internal control area. We believe that our own choices, and our way of dealing
with emotions and situations, are crucial to how we achieve happiness and
success or suffer and problem.
The
internal control area makes us masters of our own lives and it is a really good
basis for an exciting internal and external development.
In
the Muslim world, there is generally a very strong area of external control.
Here everything is inshallah (if Allah wills) and directed to male authorities.
The
lack of freedom and the inability to take control of one's own life leads to
personal immaturity and cultural stagnation - and to the world-famous and
deeply embarrassing victim mentality: It is always someone else's fault.
The
area of control (Locos of Control) is one of the big differences in
ideologies; The right believes that the individual has responsibility and the
left believes that the individual has no responsibility?
NOTE! This is expressed
in general terms. How much we understand we have a hard time
understanding!? We have to research
further!
TOLERANCE
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Especially
in Western Europe and the USA, being open and tolerant is seen as a positive
quality in humans. It gives us the opportunity to exchange views and have an
open mind to learn new things. It also allows us to live in harmony with each
other, despite political or religious differences.
In
Islam, openness and tolerance are a sin.? Here one must keep a distance from
non-believers and everything they stand for must be fought.?
There
are many examples of Muslim girls and women who have been killed while
embracing Western culture and may even have had a boyfriend from another
religion. People in different directions of Islam are at war with each other,
down to the last comma in the Qur'an.
It is
not difficult to imagine what happens when an open and tolerant culture is to
exist in the same country as a closed and intolerant culture: the open and
tolerant give up and the closed and intolerant will gradually spread.
Eventually, it will all be about, and relating to, Islam in one way or another.?!
Self-Feeling
In
the western world, and perhaps especially in Denmark, we see it as a sign of good
self-esteem to have the ability to handle criticism without being upset. If the
critic is right, we say thank you for the help. If it's wrong, we can continue
to be friends anyway. This gives us good opportunities to learn from each other
and thereby develop ourselves and our society.
Our
long tradition of religious criticism is an example of how we have been free to
develop democracy and make scientific progress.
Here
the opposite is true in Islam. Islam's conception of honor develops fragile and
sensitive personalities who cannot withstand the slightest criticism or defeat.
This
is reflected in poorer results in education and an often overblown attitude
from young men which aims to scare the environment from seeing them as the
insecure people they really are. According to general psychology, what they
call "honest" is most of all about low self-esteem.
THE
ART OF HELP?
You
can´t help people if you do not want to meet them where they are.
We
must recognize that Muslims are different from us; that they think, perceive
and communicate differently than we do.
As
Søren Kierkegaard put it in his text the art of help: "That, when it is
important to take a person to a certain place, one must first and foremost make
sure to find him where he is, and start there. That is the secret of all
auxiliary art. He who does not know this, imagines only when he thinks he can
help another. To really be able to help
someone else, I need to know more than him, but first and foremost, I need to
understand what he understands. If I do not do that, my compassion will not
help him at all”.
