Working for living

Ten years ago I had a dialogue with a certain lady in Jagodina, Serbia. She insisted that she refused to abide in a culture where you have to live for work. The way to "live" inhibits culture, in every sense of importance to be able to live out. Therefore, she could not imagine settling in northern Europe. It complains, in a vague sense of existence, the Swedes live to work, while the Serbs are working to live. This is a misunderstanding and an escape from reality; i get clear to me many years later. If one gets into sentences clears this misunderstanding.

Is this really a cultural difference? Do you wish to develop?

This suggestion desires a deeper dialogue on the subject!

Culture: Those customary beliefs, values, and social constraints that ethnic, religious, and social groups transmit fairly unchanged from generation to generation. It has taken a lifetime to change, at least the 19:th century. A lifetime is including three generations before and three after you! The fast globalizing will change this, in the civilised part at least.

Physically working Swedes, anyway the group with income from salary, much less than most Europeans. It can certainly debate at various levels (but why is it only those who work for a salary who have the time to commit to practice in the community?).

The Serbs are basically a very industrious people, so even if they do not live to work, they live by the work and the chore they do. Serbs have also a number of code words to himself in order to avoid conflict with himself, with others and life in general. It refers to the entertainment and the game, instead of complaining about the heavy workload, as the Swede gladly prepares. The Serbian life Serbian entertainment helps to see the difficulties of life, a very good way to avoid confrontation with the life that is difficult. The easiest way to complain about life is to refer to other people's faults and mistakes, to go into himself avoided forever. Shoulder pressure is an explicit body language for this setting, as well as the reference to blame the small capital. What happens when you get the "allowance" in his hand - a shrug and planning for its use hiding behind the game? And game and entertainment takes over all sound thinking on the organization and cooperation. Healthy thinking for Serbian is not to confront himself without constantly involved in life entertainment.

Constantly complaining about the heavy workload is the Swede's way to escape from life's real self. How many times have I had to lie that I have so much to do, just to be able to give the correct code words for dialogue. That is the big problem in Sweden, which no one has time for it has "too much to do"! We live, but live not always life, and hide us from problems in that way.

Welfare, what is it? And what to do!

 Intolerant nationalism and dislike of foreigners leads to world-distancing. In a society where a few create their wealth while the majority of the population careless works in sweat and drudgery for a basis living form, is a ground of clan formations. To continually build new and positively develop welfare needs immigrants. In order for something to become better, it must also have been worse. And in a society like Sweden, where most of inhabits inactively watching developments, needed a virtual war and chaos (a traditional war does not exist in reality). Sure, the media point to disregarding, poverty and misery, but these headers creates no solidarity. The explanation may be to open up society for integration. Continue and develop the structure with the help of world citizens. Simplify what our culture believes in human rights and how we live up to this. Simplify the responsibilities of each individual in an open society. Educate also in human responsibilities.  Simplify that a democracy, preferably with new concepts, never completes its goal - a democracy is an ongoing process of everyone in the municipal involved behaviors.

It's about values. Challenging traditional gender roles, also on a personal level. To achieve integration must we also challenge integrity without tyrannical neighbor.  In the family tries too often both parties meet the other's expectations. When women shoulder the responsibility for home and family the habit surfaced with careers at two speeds. It is a challenge to both care for the freedom to decide what is best for their own family and to be beating ram in the fight for likeness.

One and the same education and opportunity for all to follow his own star has made Sweden rich and the equal welfare state it is, and the process must continue. There are good reasons for constant development. Reflect boilers are reported and developed by the media, creating chaos for supporter of independence and other clan leaders. It is a challenge for widespread thinking people to debate. And above all show, to the outside world, that it is possible to live together without war (Sweden has not had wars in over 200 years). Sure it is picked up very nasty on going behind the power ported, but that's how it should be. Decay is found in most forms of organisms, and there is decay in all organizations.

A constant mindfulness of the wholeness, where those who can remain a part of a community, will creating a participating where everyone wants to be a part of continuous development. With an openness and tolerance, we also can maintain welfare.

Oh, excuse me so much

We have all felt the wrath and hatred when someone made ​​us hurt or betrayed us deeply. The desire for revenge, anger and hatred for the person who hurt is so strong that it touches one deeply.

Anger and hatred are large energy thieves. Just carry around a big hate can be heavy, and you can feel yourself how groaning under the burden. Revenge and anger makes you feel lousy ... it, then, of how one feels. And then it is important to forgive to have peace inside in one´s own life. It's so easy to let the hatred and bitterness take root so you will not progress in life. - It's not about yourself, in any way justified what the other did. You can still find it wrong. Forgiveness is not for the other's sake, instead it is for one´s own sake; in order to feel good and be whole.

So how do you forgive? - First and foremost, it is important to realize that forgiveness is a choice you make, not what you are feeling. That feeling is in fact often the desire to beat the betrayed on the jaw, not forgive. So you must decide that you want to forgive, and to wish prosperity instead of cursing. Although it feels more like lip service at first, then you start to mean it in the end, and then you have peace within. - But should you forgive at all times? Are not some things unforgivable? '... Forgiveness is not a feeling, it is a choice. You must choose to forgive no matter how you feel "..... Live well!

Do not throw away tears on old grieve?

High democracy moral

It is the way to the target that is most important! A complete Democracy is really bad, for one can not possibly have power and be subject at same time; it's working with building it up that is the real goal of building blocks, a base from which society is built on. Individual responsibility must be clarified. Perhaps it is the welfare state in their eagerness to embrace everything and everyone on the road also missed that the individual has a responsibility to care about more than once ego. It is there, beyond the individual ego, as society's are working, that is where society is built. How this is done is of course a very difficult question.
Which identity do we need to build our society? The diversity that community needs, must there also be social glue that forms the basis for solidarity among citizens. If the individual is able to feel something for a larger group there will be a fixed point to start from, a sense of security; this will of course be inclusive and not shut out anyone because of culture, ethnicity or religion. In today's global world, we need to start discussing what values ​​our identity should be built so that it can be inclusive. One have to starting from the below, from individual rights but also obligations. You have to see your own responsibility for the larger whole so there is something to build a society on.
Today’s word; Just as it needs layers to maintain a high morale, so are there needed high moral standards to uphold the laws, of a true democracy.

OBS! This text needs more knowledge; it is not complete and will never be finish, just like democracy

Here are some blocks; cometence, sincerity, kindness, commitment, credibility, responsiveness, confidence, trust, flexibility

The Swede

We live on the edge of the Oresund region in Scandinavia. The country we live in is called Sweden and other Europeans designates us as Swedes, with its pros and cons of a European cooperation. There are prejudices about the "Swede" drinking too much, dress badly, talk too little and are afraid of conflict, and often underestimate their culture and history. The great thing about "The Swede" is open, honest and keeps his word. Moreover, we takes a lot of confidence, has great integrity are highly literate and interested environment. Why are we like this? Well, we are an old democracy that is still under development. We have had peace for over 200 years, and this means that we have difficulty understanding the people who have recently been at war.
But we are now part of a continent where we have free movement of people, capital, goods and services. We are also on track to gain freedom for knowledge. We hope to see a Europe where people in every country see itself as much as the Europeans who live in his own country; it has been for previous generations had experienced very difficult. The youth of today have the ability to see themselves, at the same time, as "The Swede in a well-developed Regions" and the Europeans.
And we want to continue to live where you have freedom with responsibility and empowerment, also when the EU is extended to all European countries. Sure, we can take on part of both the negative and the positive criticism on us. But a Swedish in the Oresund Region and one in Swedish Norrland differ as widely as Estonians and Hungarians. Differences enrich knowledge and prevent narrow-mindness.

Today's word;

We do not see things as they are, we see things as we are.

It is the profound ignorance that provokes the cocksure tone.

Comments; For us, the nation, "Sweden" is an area where the residents themselves decided on the rules of democratic design. The symbol (King) of Sweden may be worn at the edges, but which inhabitants is not that?

Treat yourself this speech.

The speech to those who, with their own empowerment, choosing amicable partnership and entering into a marriage - and to you who feel the obligation.

For making life to be good you have to bear responsibility and have influence.

• We treat each other to find ourselves in life and dominion over our lives. Your situation is unique - but as you can influence. You will not rough you all by them selves - but you will find you, if you still have a focus on other than yourself, in context, on society, family and future.

• We treat each other to be needed and useful. Utility has several stages. Each person must think in several stages. What is the result of that election or that election? What can I cope - and what should I do while I wonder if I can handle it? None of us is indispensable. Yet we are all need in life. We can all be questioned. It costs nothing to criticize, not even to be rude. Yet we all try to contribute positively to our rewards.

Your useful in the bigger picture is perhaps most evident when you can stand up on important values ​​who are threatened; as gratitude, as togetherness, as hopefulness, as indignation and commitment to human rights violations. It might be expected so much of you, that not in the fundamentally feels so important to you. May you then be able to keep your curiosity and expectancy!

So you are now husband and wife. Private, you have established a free zone which is now confirmed as publicly as possible. The ceremony turned a bridge between the most personal and the common. In the family can openness and reciprocity get rooms, such as publicity and performance life never can escape. To each other, you need not be good - but you need to have our eyes on each other. "Show affection to each other. Top each other in mutual respect and love. Rejoice with those who rejoice and weep with those who weep."

• We treat each other to get worn and receive help. Independent, self-determination and freedom are important concepts. Nobody should have to crawl; no one should have to be humble. It's hard to be a debt of gratitude. It is unsafe to be at a disadvantage when you can not trust the other. In a large society and the public it is often the case. The close relationship, when it is as we wish, it is in a different way. We are doing well by a mutual, safe, loving dependence. There you have entered in. May you be kept free zone, a protected species, yet welcoming to those you want to be closest!

And a life can be long. Those who are strong may be weak; those who are born weak become strong; that, you have to manage in your family. They who is safe dare to be cage!

• We treat each other to come back even if we fail. I do not think any man live up to what he or she would like to live up to. We all come to the end of the road. To love your neighbor as yourself is hard; sometimes the self-contempt will be overwhelming, when you see all their failures.You have got married.

You have come so close together that you know that love is mutual and holds reciprocal forgiveness. Then, there is room also for the failures and weakness!You have not done you deserve life. No one has it. It is given us; the air, the universe's existence and reasonably balanced, memories and hopes.

• We treat each other to find ourselves in life and dominion over our lives. We treat each other to be needed and useful. We treat each other to get worn and receive help. We treat each other to come back even if we fail.
We do treat you that!

Today's word; The only person you can change is yourself!

Joy Jump

The idea that what makes life worth living must be recreated outside society's rules, and it requires an inexhaustible creativity.We live in a society that has made it possible for us to live as free, sentient individuals. We live in a promising and complex period in which the clan society should maintain a presence in history. The trend in society is an ever increasing quest to get it well on its own behalf. But equally important for us is to feel responsible for others and our surroundings. When you focus on the meaning of life, you can nevertheless focus on what makes us happy or what morality requires of us (who is also a term for life sentence). The most meaningful life can actually be a life that is both moral and happy at the same time, and then maybe we can be happy for real. To maintain comfort requires a degree of unease in the scheme. We may partially accept to live in a world that is a provisional one; nothing is permanent, nothing can be justified in depth, and no metaphysical questions can be answered. As long as there is a consensus that this provisional license is preferred, it will work fine. Such a society can be far more free and creative than a society built on authoritarian principles, but in the focus has it, after all, a bubble of emptiness, which all too easily be filled with ideologies, that hate this provisional liberty.
The History is excellent in the role as something to define them against; the liberation from the previous century ghost-authoritarian values ​​(which also has its basis in the first millennium, when politics and religion were in power together). Repetition of these rituals, which is more than a mother of knowledge, means that we are becoming more able to sympathize with the right side in the past conflicts, but also increasingly ill prepared to deal with the difficulties we will meet; for this it requires happiness in everyday life. We are goal-oriented beings, created for the activity. And activities, there is! Good close relationships, friendship, love, work (or any meaningful employment) and a socially and physically active leisure has a large effect on welfare. We focus at more attention on other than ourselves; we experience peace of mind and a get more positive view of others. This strengthens our sense of belonging and meaning. A major culprit is the advertising industry, since its job is to make us dissatisfied with what we have and what we are; we should examine this with great morals. Important for meaningfulness, is also, that we have a central life goal, something we are passionate about, and that we are part of a larger context. The fight against poverty and oppression, for a better environment and animal welfare are meaningful units. Our life must be related to us in an understandable way, have a common thread that makes us see the big picture. The big dividing line between the objective of promoting yourself and the goal to benefit others is a present question.

Days word; Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, and today is a gift; that`s why they call it the present